She was lonely. So she started a club to make friends, and 35,000 people joined

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Holly Cooke wasn’t a fan of weekends. Whenever Friday rolled around, it was a reminder that she had no one to spend her spare time with.

“I was super isolated,” said Cooke, who relocated from Stoke-on-Trent – a city in central England – to London in 2018, when she was 22. “I moved here knowing absolutely no one.”

She had high hopes of going to restaurants, bars and the theater, but she didn’t want to do those activities alone.

She began to understand why London is sometimes considered a particularly lonely place to live. Finding friends was hard. She grew so desperate for company, she said, she eventually found herself Googling: “How to make friends in London.”

The search proved mostly futile, though she did check out some friend dating app spinoffs, like “Bumble BFF.” There, she found a few other women who lived in London and were also lonely. She was seeking women friends, specifically, because “we really need to look out for each other,” she said.

Cooke spontaneously decided to create a Facebook group called “The London Lonely Girls Club,” and invited the people she connected with on the apps to join. She then asked everyone to meet for brunch.

“It was so vulnerable,” she said, adding that she asked a friend from out of town to come in for the brunch, in case no one else showed up. “Saying that you’re lonely and you don’t have people around, admitting to that was really scary.”

Cooke was pleasantly surprised when five women showed up and they all got along well. The success of the first meetup proved to Cooke that she was not alone in her loneliness, and that she could help others in the same situation.

She decided to start planning meetups every few weeks, and word slowly spread about the Facebook group. Now, five years later, the London Lonely kissbrides.com käy tällä sivulla Girls Club has more than 35,000 members. Cooke, with the help of some volunteers, plans between four to seven events per month for women and nonbinary people to congregate and connect. Members range from age 18 to 70, and the average age is around 28.

The group has attracted a wide range of people – including those who have lived in London all their lives, as well as people from other cities and countries.

Amie Innes is originally from Edinburgh and joined the group when she moved to London about a year ago for a job in the fashion industry. She had heard about the London Lonely Girls Club through a friend.

Although she considers herself a “people person,” Innes, 27, said, “London is such a big city. It’s really hard to make friends.”

The London Lonely Girls Club organizes various types of gatherings, including park picnics, art lessons, jewelry workshops, dinners and puppy yoga. For some events, attendees are charged a small fee of about $3 to cover deposits and other charges associated with securing a venue.

“We want to be as inclusive as we can be,” said Cooke, adding that the group also has a community forum for members to chat and plan their own meetups based on common interests.

Cooke said she lost count of how many women have made enduring friendships through her group. She’s seen members go on vacations together and also become roommates.

“It’s beautiful and it’s rewarding, and it’s the reason I’ve carried on,” she said. “We can’t stop now. As long as there is a need, we will be here.”

For instance, Marissa Meizz started the “No More Lonely Friends,” Facebook group in 2021, and more than 3,000 people have since joined.

Meizz, 25, who lives in New York City, created the group after a hurtful TikTok video went viral, in which a man said he overheard a group of friends rescheduling a birthday party so a woman named Marissa would be out of town and unable to attend. Meizz discovered that the video was referring to her.

“It came to my attention because it was my name, and it was in New York,” she said, adding that she reached out to the person who created the video, and sent him a photo of her friends. He confirmed it was them.

Meizz, a wardrobe stylist for television and film, had just moved to New York from Los Angeles, and was still getting settled. While she was deeply disturbed by what her friends did, “I felt like I didn’t have time to process,” she said.

That’s because Meizz revealed her identity on TikTok, and she swiftly received a torrent of support from strangers, letting her know that they wanted to be her friend.

More than 200 people gathered in Central Park to meet Meizz two weeks after the video was posted, marking the beginning of No More Lonely Friends.

“It just kept going from there,” said Meizz, explaining that anyone is welcome to join the free group, which has meetups at least once a month in New York and elsewhere.

No More Lonely Friends has hosted more than 50 events – which are often held in parks and other public spaces – across the country, including in D.C. At least 100 people have attended each one.

“It just keeps spreading through word of mouth,” said Meizz, who also writes a regular newsletter, and updates her social media accounts with information about upcoming events. “Everyone knows it’s such a welcoming, safe place to be.”

Megan Marzella heard about No More Lonely Friends online, and in , she decided to attend a meetup in Philadelphia, where she met Meizz.

“She’s one of my best friends now,” said Marzella, 29, who makes an effort to go to every event that she can. “I keep going back for the atmosphere and the welcoming space.”

“I’ll do this as long as the world allows me to do this,” she said. “People will always need friends.”

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